Naptural: The Beginning of My Natural Hair Process

Hey!! So it has been awhile since I've written anything, a couple months to be exact, but I am trying to get back on it and actually become dedicated to this thing! :) I think it's necessary that my next article topic be about my natural hair or natural hair in general.  It's all about the curls ya'll!!
      Ever since I was exposed to hot combs, blow dryers, and flat irons, my hair had no chance. I WAS DOOMED FROM THE START! Just remembering the sound of my poor edges sizzling from the  hot comb meeting the grease, burning THE MESS out of my scalp and ears, just makes me want to cry. Of course, I didn't know what was happening at the time.  I just wanted my hair pretty and straight! OH! But if I knew, I wouldn't have agreed to sit in Ms. Carolyn's chair! (Love her though, wonderful woman) Now some x amount of years later, my curls are almost non-existent. I would say, when wet, most of my hair doesn't curl up, it just lays there. Over the past year, I have been trying to transition and start the process of getting my curls back, but I get lazy....real quick. Plus, I just end up going back to what I am use to...flat irons. I'm so weak! BUT these past couple of months I would say I have been doing exceptionally well. I'm still not satisfied.
      I want my entire head to be filled with luscious curly goodness! My ends are giving me so much trouble. I would do bantu knots and bantu knots....and more bantu knots. (That's really all I know how to do) The style comes out great, but you can still see the straight ends poking out the curls. If I could achieve a proper wash-n-go without worrying about one side part of my hair being curly another being straight and another being both curly and straight I would. Before my started falling out and before I cut it into a bob, your girl's hair was extra long. I'm talking INCHES! Everyone thought I wore weave until they ran their fingers through my hair and didn't feel a single track. I grew my own Brazilian Remy! But I didn't take care of it and now it barely reaches my shoulders, ULTIMATE SAD FACE! I don't just want to get my curls back, I want long, healthy, strong and thick hair.
      I declare today August 4th, 2015, my first day of transitioning! I DECLARE IT! Also after long hours of watching youtube videos, talking to my cousin and myself, I will be doing the big chop! Not now, of course, but I have set a date. This is only the beginning, I hope you all stick with me during this process and I am open to any advice on hair care products, styles, anything really!
Stay Tuned...more coming soon!

Rape Is Never OK

        My friends and I normally conduct these table talks whenever we manage to have lunch together in our college's main dining area. On Tuesday's, we discuss many topics that aren't normally discussed in your everyday conversation. We receive emails from campus officials whenever an emergency has taken place or the school has been closed to due to inclement weather or for some other reason. All I know is, the email we received wasn't looked over by any of us.

     Reading what had happened in our campus community sent chills up my spine. Our dorms are our homes, and usually that is where we are to feel the safest. Learning that, not even that far from my dorm, a girl had become a rape victim has made me question my safety on this campus. Rape is NEVER okay. 

          Our conversation began with one of my roommates talking about the many police cars that surrounded one of our residential buildings. It was pretty clear that we were all angry and scared that something like this happened so close. We then proceeded to, sarcastically, repeat the many arguments that would be against the female. 

'Well of course she was asking for it."

"Obviously, her items of clothing were tempting to him."

"She shouldn't have allowed him to in the first place."

"Maybe the next time she steps outside her clothes shouldn't be so revealing."

These are just a few of the many lines people pull when trying to defend the rapist and make it seem that the victim was asking for it. In my opinion, (sorry Mom, Dad and anyone else who can't possibly imagine me using profanity) it's pretty fucked up that someone would even try to justify rape. It is never the girl or guy's fault. YES! I said girl or guy because whether y' all want to believe it or not, guys are exposed to rape too. For now I'll speak from a female's point of view...

I have so many questions: Why the fuck do I have to be conscious of what I'm wearing? If I want to wear some shorts, LET ME without making me scared that some guy is going to try to forcefully take a piece of me. Where are the gentlemen? Why are you slipping drugs in my drink to get me to have sex with you?  Why do you believe that ''no'' means "yes" when really it means 'NO'? Why aren't my pleads to make you stop, making you stop? ARE YOU THAT MESSED UP? Why aren't we teaching our boys to be gentlemen early so that when they do reach that age to feel something down in their pants they don't have to go stick in something? Better yet, why aren't we teaching boys and girls not to rape?
          BOTTOM LINE: RAPE IS NEVER OKAY! I don't care if the girl is passed out on the side of the street, wearing nothing but a halter top and a short ass skirt. She's not asking for it, she didn't give her consent, that does not give a guy the green light...

I could talk/write on this topic for forever, but I'll spare y' all this rant....FOR NOW! Despite the fact that this says "Posted at 10' something", it's really 3 in the morning. There's a part 2 to this COMING SOON ladies and gentlemen. Thanks for reading! Leave some comments on what you think about today's topic and any critique you have for me.